Ladies. Chicks. Mamas.
If I wasn’t one, I would say we are a very hard species to understand. But as it turns out, I am one and I think I have a good handle on understanding what makes us tick.
Most of us are multi-taskers, homemakers, career women, decision-makers and litigators all before 8:30am on any average day. And while we don’t mind this, we embrace it so long as once in a while we can get together for a Ladies Night.
So why is Ladies Night for Moms important?
1. We compare notes. An outsider may hear us chat and wonder why we talk of the very things that we are trying to get a break from – kids, schedules, discipline tactics etc. The reality is, through the wine and fruity-named drinks, we are gaining knowledge that allows us to streamline matters that would otherwise take us time to navigate if alone. Hey, if you have figured out why your Little Angel is acting out before school, perhaps it will work for my Cherub.
2. We are thirsty and hungry. This one is simple. It’s nice to have a drink that is free of four-year-old’s backwash and a bite of food that I have chosen to eat AND not some half eaten pizza bagel that my little one didn’t finish and I didn’t have the heart to throw away.
3. We need each other. Once you weed out the fake, over zealous, one-upper kind of ladies, you are left with ladies that really and truly care about you. Together these ladies laugh. Together these ladies make you feel that motherhood is manageable.
In essence, Ladies Night Out for Mommy is way to recharge our batteries and give us a chance – even if just one or two hours – to be carefree, silly girls!
Was an Ok article, don't disagree with any of it.
Seriously, the outbursts of misogyny are frightening. Good for you, JG123.
Being a contemplative person in an oversocialized world can be terribly challenging, and richly rewarding.
CC, this is a delightful article and I fully agree with your point. A little adult time with your besties, no matter where you all go for a little while, to commiserate and bond, is and should be part of a happy, whole and balanced life.
Nonetheless, no man or woman is an island. Millions of years of evolution have made humanity a social creature. We all need various levels of interaction - including you.
I really wish for you the best, and I do believe eventually you'll get it! Just don't give up. First be open, and then trust yourself to keep high standards when you need to. I guess, don't be afraid to try new friendships based on what's important to you. You never know unless you try. I wish I could do and say more for you!